By: Funto Abioye-Ayidu
A has got a new SUV while I still cruise with my “legedizbenz”; B is making waves in her fashion business, how I wish her life can just be mine; I saw C’s latest picture on Facebook yesterday, she’s out of the country again? Oh! My life sucks. I’m beginning to have sleepless nights, in fact, I’ve tried to do what D and E did because it’s really trending and they had great success but it seems not to be working for me; see how rich my friend’s husband is, if a brother who isn’t richer than her husband asks for my hand in marriage, he automatically falls into my voicemail; I wish my body were so spotless like that babe with hot legs. These are just a few of the struggles that we go through when we compare our lives with others and engage in subtle and unhealthy competitions with people who barely know we even exist. If this is a summary of the type of life you live, I doubt if you will achieve anything meaningful for yourself, your God and generations yet unborn.
I find this definition of self-esteem so perfect, so we’ll run with this understanding through the rest of this discourse. “Self-esteem is how we value ourselves; it is how we perceive our value to the world and how valuable we think we are to others. Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work – nearly every part of our lives. Positive [high, healthy] self-esteem gives us the strength and flexibility to take charge of our lives and grow from our mistakes without the fear of rejection” (https://www.google.com.ng/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j…)
In our modern day world of social media craze, competition, deception and razzmatazz, there is no better time than this to have a discourse bordering on our self-esteem. It is more important because a good and sufficient dose of self-acceptance is inevitable for any meaningful success. A lot of people in the world today, especially women have been crippled because of low self-esteem. It is more saddening to discover that Christian folks who we assume know their rightful position as heirs of God cringe and crouch as they go through life with sunken eyes and so much weight on their shoulders.
This day, I want you to know that you’re specially and wonderfully made and no matter how you are, who you are, where you are, where you’ve been and all you’ve been through, you’re special before God and there’s no other human breed just like you. Without a proper understanding of yourself, it will be pretty difficult to live a purposeful, meaningful and fulfilled life. The pressure is so much today and the intimidation level is increasing by the day. However, our assessment or faith in ourselves shouldn’t be weighed on the world’s balance. Very few people make meaningful marks on earth because a good number of people do not have a proper understanding of who they are. Understanding who you are will assist you in having a definite and clear purpose for your life. I want you to know that the people you envy, adore and admire are humans like you and they at one point in their lives undertook a journey of self-discovery which unearthed their strengths and weaknesses. The only reason you think they are better off is because they expend their energy on their strengths.
You cannot have a good sense of self-esteem if you do not accept yourself. How do you accept yourself when you do not believe in yourself? No matter how difficult it is for you to believe, know, accept and believe today that you are a unique and special. There’s something in this life that only you can do best. Undertake your journey of self-discovery today. It must be a thorough critical assessment of yourself which brings to the fore your strength and weaknesses. You cannot afford to deceive yourself during this exercise. Do not pamper yourself, write out your strengths and weaknesses. Think about ways you can improve on your strengths and let your world revolve around it. Learn a skill, go for training, invest in that aspect of you that you enjoy doing effortlessly and joyfully. Knowing your weaknesses will help you to know the pitfalls to avoid on your path of greatness. know that you’re in competition with no one. Rather, run your race and live optimally. Invest in your life because it’s your life and you’re accountable to your creator. Do not invest in yourself because you want to impress others. You can run in life and still be empty if all your purpose in life is to outsmart your fellow being.
Finally, your life can never make sense outside God because the devil will always flaunt your inadequacies in order to weaken your faith and drive. You need to see yourself as God sees you, believe God’s word concerning you and give your best to be what God wants you to be. If you’ve tried your best and you seem to be failing and fainting at heart, trust and depend on God who can never fail you and he will give you a vision that will keep you running for the rest of your life.
I’ll end with this declaration: I know I am special and born to fulfil a unique purpose in life
What about you?